Very switchy but most naturally submissive with regards to D/s. I enjoy many aspects of kink and BDSM, but I also love good, sensual vanilla. If you say you’re a Dom, I expect that you will know how to construct a scene and understand the difference between the role of a Dominant and “making a partner do what I want.”
I am not looking for new play partners right now and I am never interested in hookups, NSA or online play/pic exchanges. I do enjoy pick up play at BDSM events with people I have met previously.
I AM open to connecting with a Dom who is interested in developing a longer-term, romantic and sexual connection in addition to BDSM play. If you read my profile and you think we might be good for each other, let me know. My preference is for a Dominant who has some experience and has been actively engaging in and learning about BDSM through books, workshops, events, etc. However, I am not opposed to someone new to the scene if they have a desire to put in the effort to learn.
About me: I am leftist, feminist, anti-racist, anti-capitalism, pro-queer, and pro-choice. If those qualities would bother you in a vanilla context, we are probably not going to be a good pair. Trump supporters will not be a good fit for me.
I enjoy connecting with progressive, kind, compassionate, thoughtful people who enjoy a good conversation, good food, in addition to good sex.
I love to laugh and I love finding joy in life. I am generally optimistic and definitely silly at times. Cynical and jaded people usually turn me off.
I live with ADHD, depression, and anxiety. All of these things impact the way I show up in the world. I consider myself to be pretty self aware as a result of lots of therapy and learning about myself and my neuro-spicy brain. I love when people want to learn about what makes me tick and I love learning about what makes you tick. So self-aware, introspective, communicative folks to the front please!
I love many different styles and genres of art and the arts - classic and modern art museums, dance performances, live music and theater, sculpture gardens, urban art, etc.
I miss skydiving which I used to do somewhat regularly when I was quitea bit younger. *** got tight and priorities changed. Maybe I’ll get back to it someday.
We are not a good fit if… you are looking for a mommy, or a brainless bimbo, you voted for Trump or don’t support a woman’s access to abortion care, you are not interested in a connection that goes beyond sex and/or bdsm, or if you are looking for a monogamous relationship.
We might be a good fit if… you think therapy is cool and you’ve spent some time working on yourself, you can send a first message that isn’t overly sexual and more interesting that “Hi there.” You take accountability for your mistakes and you extend a little grace when others make mistakes. You enjoy intellectual pursuits and can laugh at cheesy jokes. You’re curious and imperfect.
